We think of Ego as a larger than life, someone who is a egomaniac, egotistical, someone with power or influence. I would assert that the Ego is far more cunning than that and also very, very sensitive. The Ego has the ability to disguise itself as humility, piety, goodness, selflessness. The Ego’s best role is the role of God in our mind…

The Ego or False self is always centered on me…  How addiction fuels the Ego and the Ego fuels addiction in a vicious cycle.

Here are 10 surefire signs that your ego is in control:

  1. You feel elevated from gossiping about other people’s flaws
    2. You find yourself in a feisty discussion and you just can’t back down until you have ‘won’ the argument
    3. You constantly compare yourself to other people who you feel are better than you (better looking, more intelligent, happier, more wealthy)
    4. You constantly compare yourself to people who you feel are not as good as you (less intelligent, lower status)
    5. You feel jealous when other people do well
    6. You talk about yourself for 10 minutes before asking another how they are
    7. You’d rather win than do your best
    8. You often sulk when you don’t win that sports game or work challenge (instead of being proud of your attempt to do your best)
    9. You set yourself impossible goals and then beat yourself up when you don’t reach them
    10. You blame others when things don’t go your way



The ego is that part of the self that wants to be significant, central, and important by itself, apart from anybody else. It wants to be both separate and superior. It is defended and self-protective by its very nature. It must eliminate the negative to succeed at this. The ego is what Jesus called an “actor,” usually translated from the Greek as “hypocrite” (see Matthew 23). – Richard Rohr https://cac.org/ego-the-actor-2016-07-12/

In terms of the ego, most religions teach in some way that all of us must die before we die, and then we will not be afraid of dying. Suffering of some sort seems to be the only thing strong enough to destabilize our arrogance and our ignorance. I would define suffering very simply as whenever you are not in control. Richard Rohr

Opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams … that is being naked. Rob Bell

My ego is not my amigo.


  • The sacred self
  • The true self
  • Spirit
  • The Redeemed self

Who do you know that is in control of their EGO?